January 15, 2013
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Irritated!
Did you ever have one of those days where things just kind of...get on your nerves? I am kind of having one of those days, although not completely either. There are a few things that are really on my mind in the annoying category, and then a bunch of really good things happened today too, so although I don't want to focus on the negative, I'm going to list out a few things that have me a little on edge. I'm hoping it'll be therapeutic! Hahaha
1) My parents. Since my car broke down when I was helping them move from Yuma to New Mexico, I never made it all the way to see their place. I've felt bad about that lately, so thought it was time to make a trip to visit. I talked with my sister and she said she'd like to go also but didn't want to stay the whole weekend. That is actually preferable for me, because I always like to have a day to recuperate and do laundry and all that kind of thing. So-we made plans to have me pick her up on Friday night and then we'll all ride together (us and our kids) to my parents place, and then spend Friday night and come home Saturday night-no specific time. I was reviewing the plan with my mom this morning and she got all irritated with me because they wanted us to stay longer. It got to the point where I got a little defensive.... they always seem to blame these things on me, even though in this case, my sister was the one who specified that she didn't want to spend the whole weekend. I didn't say anything about that part because I don't want to cause trouble for my sister. Anyway, I got off the phone and went to work. I got off tonight and talked to my sister and found out that my mom called her up after we talked and told her that she knew the only reason that I was wanting to come just for one night is because I don't want to miss church on Sunday, and that she is worried that I am getting "sucked in" to the church and getting too involved and that it will only cause trouble, etc. I was just so ticked off by that. That is crazy. I'll bet you if I was in some sort of beer drinking club that then they'd be supportive. It is just because they don't believe the same things in the same way that I do, that somehow everything that doesn't go their way always gets put off on that. There is more to that story- but the bottom line is that I am saddened and also today...irritated, by the fact that they just don't respect the things that I do, and yet even so, instead of saying anything to me, they will go behind my back and say things to my sister. I can't say anything about it without causing her grief, so I won't do that either, but it makes me so mad.
2) A coworker. She is bringing WAY too much of her personal life in to work and I can already tell that if she doesn't get a grip, it will not continue to go well for her. That has absolutely nothing to do with me, it just makes me uncomfortable for her.
3) Another coworker, who is also a friend. This one is a bit sticky because she is also a member at my church. She is a good person, but very....strange. (aren't we all?). She doesn't like her job, but won't look for another one. She continues to work there unhappily ,and her complaints are becoming more verbal and she is having an even more negative attitude than usual while at work. Like all of us, she is being pulled to cross cover different positions, and she just doesn't put herself into the work. She doesn't even seem to be trying to do a good job...she just complains and complains and complains. On the personal (outside of work) angle, things with her are always very touchy. If she is in a good place mentally, then all is well. If not, then she acts like a mean dinosaur and seems to expect people to put up with it, and also to try and dig from her what is bothering her. I do know that she truly suffers from depression, but sometimes it seems that she uses that as a crutch for having a bad attitude all the time. I don't know....I know she struggles and I try to be a good friend for her, because I know that she truly needs one... but sometimes I get so frustrated. I feel like if anything or anybody upsets her balance or does something she doesn't agree with that she feels she has the right to act like a crazy maniac. She has gotten pretty good at the "pity me" thing, and it is sometimes very draining.
All in all, though- life is good to me. I have a great son, he is healthy and happy. I am healthy and I have great friends and family. I have a job that pays my bills and I have everything that I need. So really....nothing to actually dwell on or spend time moping around about. It was just a "vent" post!
Comments (5)
Sounds like you lead a normal life God bless
I think those things would tend make me irritated too
I don't like being stuck in those kind of situations.
In the long run, I guess the #1 problem is the worst for you. Perhaps you should have a little meeting with your mother and your sister. Tell your mother that you heard that she thinks your church activities are the reason for the short visit. Tell your mother that actually it was also your sister who couldn't stay all weekend and that you, too, had some things to do on Sunday such as laundry and preparing for the work week. Sure, you would like to stay longer but you can't this time. If neither of them offers an apology, it just means that now you know and you can think about the next visit before you commit to it.
Hope the co-workers learn to deal with their own personal problems. But knowing from my own experience, they will continue to drag their baggage into work and never realize how it affects the rest of you.
Well it's great that you have Xanga to be able to say everything that you feel and get everything off of your chest. I can understand that your parents would like it if you could come and stay longer since you probably don't get to see them too often, but she shouldn't be saying any sort of things about why you can or can't stay more time. You might have been exaggerating about the beer drinking club as I can't imagine too many parents preferring their kids doing something like that haha, but clearly you seem to have different views then the rest of your family.
Ultimately though people have to respect your views, even if they don't agree with them. If you can stay more time you might as well though because it's a long trip and you won't know when you will get back. So I would say if possible try and stay a bit longer just to make the whole trip more worthwhile. Some people are more open about things than others are. And it's great to be able to talk about things and have someone to listen, but people need to know who they are talking to and when is a good time to talk.
Work is a place to work not for a counseling session. This lady should really only be going so deep with her personal life with counselors and her friends and family, she shouldn't be bringing everything into the job. Hopefully she doesn't keep up with this for too much longer. And your last thing I'm really not a fan of those types of people. Whether its a job a person doesn't like, or a city a person doesn't like to live in, there is a simple solution... leave ! Now I know a person can't just move just like that, and can't just find a new job just like that, but if they are going to be complaining every single day and it's painfully obvious that they aren't happy doing what they are doing, they should really be applying for other jobs and doing what they can to move on and do something in their lives that will make them happy.
Not only is it just horrible for oneself to be working a job they absolutely hate, it's just not fair to the other people working there to hear that sort of thing every single day. It's great you have a lot of positives to be happy about in your life. As long as you realize the majority of things are great and that you are enjoying your life, than you certainly vent from time to time. Take care and enjoy the rest of the week, bye for now.
Kyle
Wow! That is why I am glad I live in OH and the rest of my family is in South Jersey. Few of them go to church so they don't understand that we put it first and tithe and try to do what is right. They "pray" for things but nobody makes a real effort to go to church. Doing things and buying things is more important. They also voted for Obama and don't have a clue that why now things are getting tight and they have less money in their paychecks. I speak my mind and I don't care if they like me or not.
You shouldn't let anybody guilt you into your choice to put Jesus and church first. When all the crap starts hitting the fan in this economy that is what is going to get you and your son through it.
I don't like my job but at least I am trying to find another and just doing it every day even if I don't get another one. They know the economy is bad so they lord it over you, saying, if you don't like the job, go find another one.
It would be a bummer hearing constant griping every day.
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