April 28, 2012

• I am sitting on a patio table out by the pool right now.  My son is playing in the water with a friend.  Actually the girl is my coworker's daughter, but she and my son have played together off and on since they were both really little, so they know each other.  My coworker had to work today and didn't have another person to watch her daughter, so I said I would watch her.  The kids are having a good time.  I am sitting here relaxing and enjoying the day.  It is warm without being hot, and there is a nice breeze off and on.  I see another mom over on the opposite side who seems to be doing her homework or something...she has a binder and a notebook and pen, pencil, etc.  Good place to study and enjoy the day.  Of course she is all laid out in the sun in her bathing suit, but that is not what I usually do.  I am in the shade with jeans and a tanktop!  I also can hardly see my computer screen at all because of the glare off the water, so if I have lots of misspelled words, that is why!

  I actually have listened to the advice received here in comments, as well as some other friends who have given me their opinion on the church guy.  I am being careful and I am definitely cutting him out.  He has been much less present since I talked to him at church and told him to back off.  He has still been texting, but not even close to the same amount, and when I ignore them, he doesn't continue to send even more.  Of course it has only been a couple of days, so we'll see how that progresses.  But I am being careful and keeping an eye on it.  I do believe in trusting your instincts, and I put a lot of stock into that.  There is actually a great book on that topic that I've read called The Gift of Fear.  It is all about that very subject...trusting your instincts to survive dangerous, or potentially dangerous situations.  I do listen to my instincts, and I am not wanting anything to do with this guy.  Last night there was an event that had been organized through the church, where a whole bunch of us got together and went to package food and things for the homeless.  I made sure to get placed in a separate room from him.  I bagged up food bags with another man(married) and 3 or 4 young kids.  It was a lot of fun, and I was relieved not to be in the same group.  As far as him being stalker material...he sure seems to fit the bill.  I wonder if something inside of him just would have went a little haywire when his wife of 18 years divorced him, or what happened there.  I do know that he is a very controlling person, and a controlling parent.  Perhaps that kind of thing is in your personality from the time you are young, and then a traumatic event just triggers it, and you aren't quite right after that?  I don't know, but either way, I am certainly being careful.  Another interesting thing I overheard last night during the food packaging thing, was when the stalker's daughter started talking about her latest crush...she mentioned that he has been kind of ignoring her at school, and while she knows that boys will do that to see if a girl will chase after them, she feels like that just makes her mad, because she wants to have a guy who will not ever ignore her and will ALWAYS be available to her at all times.  So, whatever the personality trait is, it certainly seems to run in the family.

  My friend who was in the hospital finally got released and went home on Friday.  She has been doing fairly well ever since, although she said that last night was a little rough with a lot of coughing, some blood but mostly just gunk.  Her oxygen levels are staying good, so that part is good.  She will be back down here on Thursday for more testing, and sounds like she will be staying with me for the night, along with her husband of course.  It is just too much for them to afford the hotels down here at $100 or more a night, on top of everything else they are dealing with.  I told them I'll just give them a key and they can let themselves in and out of my place any time they need to.  They are really good people, longtime family friends, so I trust them with my key. 

  I mentioned up above about bagging food packages for the homeless.  I am so glad I went to do that, and had such a great time!  My son went too, and he ended up in the garden, picking fresh vegetables and helping bag them....he also loved it.  I think that it is so important to teach kids to do community service projects and to try and help people, so I was really glad we did that.  It was good.  I'd really like to be able to do it more, but the location is about 45 minutes from my house, so quite a drive.  I have never seen anything like that on the west side of town where I live, but I will have to check further into it to see.

  Knickers asked if I have ever considered being a nurse, but that answer is no.  I don't really want to be the one to administer medications and things like that.  I have never felt any kind of calling at all to be a nurse.  I like the caretaking part, but the medications and all of that just isn't my thing.  I have heard of patient care advocates in hospitals and things like that, and that seems more like my kind of thing.  Making people feel like they have a voice and facilitating them getting what they need, but not involved with administering their meds. I don't know.  I'm still working on pre reqs anyway, so I have time to research options.  I'm currently on my final college algebra class....boy will I be glad when that is done! 

  It has just occurred to me that I left my phone inside, and I need to run grab it so I'll know when makenzi's mom calls to pick her up.  So, off I go!!!

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